Grace means God in the RACE. And when God is in the race you are guaranteed to finish well. When God is in the race it is impossible for the race to be terminated along the line or in-between. Grace is defined by Bible scholars as “unmerited favour”.
Let us use the story of Esther. She brought God into the race by the counsel of Mordecai and even went on a fast – Esther 4. God’s presence with Esther resulted in divine favour and ended with her married to the King.
After the creation of man, God decided to favour man by not allowing man to be alone hence he brought forth a helper. The next time God made an utterance in relation to the marriage institution is in Proverb 18 vs 22 – “ he who finds a wife finds a good thing and obtaineth favour’’.
Which favour is God talking about or where is this favour from? It is God’s favour and from Him alone. It means it takes His favour which is His Grace to find the rib of your ribs as a man (the one he moulded to be your helper).
In that vein, it is the same grace and favour that comes upon the woman for her to be found as a wife – because there are many other women out there waiting to be found.
We must therefore ensure that our number one prayer as a couple is for God to continually be in the union i.e His grace which causes favour all-round will be there throughout the marital journey.
The single guys should pray to receive His presence (God in the race) which will result in favour to find a wife. The single woman should pray to God to let His grace put her in a position to be found as was Esther.
WHAT GRACE DOES
Apostle Paul who knew the importance of Grace attributed everything about his life / achievement to God – 1 Corinthians 15 vs 10 “But by the grace of God I am what I am —“
When God’s grace is in a marriage or relationship, the following happens:
- Everything falls in line with His purpose for the man and woman
- All errors are covered between the parties’ i.e weaknesses.
- All strengths are magnified i.e they begin to see more of the positives
- It allows for easy forgiveness
- Grace brings God’s light into the marriage / relationship and when it shines no darkness is able to comprehend. It blindfolds the enemy and he therefore has no influence in the marriage.
- Grace boosts your passion and zeal for each other
- Grace eliminates lack and brings fruitfulness in all of the marriage.
When your spouse or fiancé(e) gets you so mad that negative thoughts easily come to mind, remind yourself of His Grace and ask Him to manifest His presence once again in the union / relationship, you will be surprised how quickly the anger disappears. Anger that is not quickly addressed leads to hatred and to other negativity which can destroy.
I pray for understanding of the effect of His grace leading to your marriage and relationship.
Conclusively no marriage and relationship will fail through the Grace of God.